• Delete their number. Erase them from your phone, un-friend them and un-follow them. You will be able to move on much easier if you aren’t reading their Facebook updates and seeing their weekend photos on Instagram. Every time you have to look at their name on your feed you will be thrown back into thinking about them, so deleting them puts them out of sight and out of mind. If you erase their number from your phone you’re much less likely to do things like text them late at night when you’re lonely, or read through old texts.
• Get rid of their stuff. Get out a box and put in everything they gave you, photos of the two of you, and anything of theirs that they left at your house. Put it away somewhere where you won’t have to look at it every day. You can decide later what you want to do with it, but for now just getting it out of your face is a great start. You won’t be forced to think of them every time you walk into your room and see their photo, or the jacket they left behind.
• Physical distance. If you can, try to limit the amount of time you have to see them or run into them. Walk a different way across campus to avoid running into them, or hang out with a different group of friends to avoid seeing them at a party. You don’t have to change your whole life to avoid them, but find a few small ways to limit the number of times you need to be in the same place at the same time, at least at first when you’re trying to get over them.
• Distraction. Sitting around by yourself will inevitably lead to you thinking about them. Don’t give yourself the opportunity to go there. Instead, surround yourself with family and friends and get out and do fun things. You’ll be much less likely to be wallowing if you’re bowling with your friends than if you’re sitting at home alone.
• Change your routine. Pick a new playlist if everything on your iPod reminds you of them. Try a new coffee shop if you always hung out at the old one together. Find small ways to change up your routine to get away from all the stuff you used to do together. While you’re at it you’ll discover new and interesting things which will help distract you and put you in a new headspace, rather than re-living the past and being stuck on them.

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